I’d argue that the best male model is Cory Bond. True, bias is involved. Nevertheless, he remains my favorite. And I will never forget the day I met him. During my late teen years, my mom randomly told me there were models who’d recently moved into the building we lived. Also, without asking, that she’d already mentioned to them how I should be a model too. Because what mom wouldn’t? Thanks mom.

Initially, I refused to meet our new beautiful neighbors; I didn’t want to appear “thirsty,” or be that cliché loser who’d shy away whenever I saw them so I could avoid hearing “Hey wannabe model that will never be one, how are you?” At least this is how it would play out in my head. Despite my reluctance and insecurities, my mom forced me to introduce myself to them, because moms aren’t people you say no to.

Before I knew it, I was walking up the stairs to meet the models. I took the stairs because the elevator would’ve been too quick. I can recall how embarrassing it felt and wondered about the number of times these models got asked how to become one, or, if they could provide a “hook-up” to a modeling agency. They probably laugh about it all behind closed doors and exchange similar stories with all their beautiful model friends when hanging out too. My feelings sank further realizing I was going to be another one of those stories. Thanks, mom.

With every step, my anxiety spiked. Being rejected isn’t on anyone’s to-do list. And at the ripe old age of 19, this was going to be my first memorable one (high-school crushes don’t count). I eventually made it to their front door and stood there silently for a moment. After a deep breath, I knocked. Before the door fully opened, I was already apologizing to what I categorized as a “misunderstanding,” but somehow the model who greeted me brushed it off with his cool model magic and introduced himself and his girlfriend. This model was none other than Cory Bond. And he invited me into his apartment.

I don’t remember much from that first conversation — due to the blur of excitement of not immediately being laughed at or rejected. I repeatedly thought, “Wow, this couple didn’t slam the door on my face! They’re actually talking to me!” The crazier thing was that Cory decided to call his modeling agent right then to suggest I should be seen. At that point, I was wholly anticipating Cory hanging up his orange Nokia cellphone (Remember those?) and jokingly saying, “Just kidding dude” before laughing at my expense. Things like this are “too good to be true.” But no. “Too good to be true” turned out to be the reality for me that day. When did I have such luck? Thanks, mom. Not long after, I was taking the train downtown to DNA modeling agency to meet the very colorful Earnest Williams.

Little did I know that modeling was going to be the beginning of a long journey. Not towards fame or riches, but towards discovering my identity, and subsequently, integrity.

Its been years since I first set foot inside DNA modeling agency. Cory Bond has only flourished into an iconic model who has graced the covers of major magazines, appeared in countless high fashion editorials, exciting campaigns, and famous runway shows. When I was 20, I was featured on Models.com as “Model of the week” thanks to my agent, Will Hill, at MC2 Model Management. Later down the road, after a bit of navigation, I was signed by FORD models—one of the most prestigious modeling agencies in the world. Collectively, my resume includes work in magazines like GQ, Maxim, Cosmopolitan and DNR. I did high fashion runway shows for Coogi, Lafayette 148, and Sean John, showroom for clients like United Colors of Benetton and Joseph Abboud, and catalog work for Macys, Kmart, and Major League Baseball. Additionally, I did commercial work for Tommy Hilfiger, Adidas, Target and Heineken, among others (You may view current portfolio here)

I must admit, I enjoyed working to a level where clients knew me by name and expressed gratitude whenever I worked—as I did with them. I consistently remained professional and worked hard. The time and investment I put into my modeling career was ultimately about the integral development the industry granted me. The journey paid dividends in ways I didn’t anticipate, and the bonuses bled into my other professional fields.

I want to share two critical things modeling revealed to me. One, was the integrity of character. The second, was the invaluable worth of someone believing in you.

If it weren’t for my mom pushing me to meet Cory, I probably would have never adventured towards personal discovery so timely; Something I grew to appreciate over time. The discipline I developed to consistently make all my castings and appointments, the on-going commitment of staying in physical shape and eating healthy, the skills of networking and building relationships with both clients and colleagues, the maturity of remaining professional in the face tough work days and rejection — all built character, strength, integrity and professionalism. I learned the nuances of commerce and business. I learned how to perform as an effective self-employed individual. And all these elements formed a foundation that later proved to become monumental for any job or endeavor there-afterwards.

In the same vein as my mom, Cory demonstrated how invaluable kindness and belief in someone stands. His support and encouragement when I first began not only reflected the quality of his character but eventually became a source of inspiration for me to emanate. Because of Cory, I had the opportunity to learn a new profession and acquire extraordinary skill sets. I also had the honor of working with Earnest Williams, Latoya Scott-Brown, Moani Lee, Tyron Barrington, legendary agent John Babin, and Boss Models founder, David Bosman (RIP). These individuals throughout my modeling career equipped me with tools that not only refined my approach towards the business of modeling but also for life. I’m not sure if they realize the enormous lasting impact they’ve had on me. Till this day, I hold fast to their wisdom and knowledge.

I’m deeply grateful to Cory Bond for being a catalyst in this. It has been a privilege knowing him. His continued success brings me joy. Back when we lived in the same building, I helped him any way I could in appreciation for his kindness (remember those apartment struggles Cory?) I’d still help him today if I could, but he’s far from needing any help from me, and that’s a better scenario. Cory is happily married and a father. He and his wife have wonderful modeling and acting careers. Perhaps someday when Cory’s kids grow up, I can share how her dad changed my life (and maybe how he’s also responsible for my very first NYC clubbing experience).

As you journey down the path of life, embrace its challenges by adapting habits that will refine your character.

In conclusion, I encourage you to always stay willing to learn. It’s imperative to maintain a healthy perception towards encounters; They can also be hidden opportunities. Extract elements you can utilize to build progress, likewise, dismiss what doesn’t aid in your endeavors. You’ll discover that life is often about efficiency and refinement rather than chasing status. Goals and aspirations are accomplished by everyday habits, small steps. Take care of the little things, and they’ll take care of the big things.